I need my love, my valentine

February 14. The day of love. The day that many of us wait to expressed our feelings to our special someone. To bring chocolates, flowers, cards and many more.

Here is a story of my reader who experienced a very special day on what we called "Valentine's day''

Hi there. I'm an occasionally reader of your blog and posts. Here's the thought in my high school days most of my classmates is an avid fan of ''valentines day'' they bought flowers, expensive chocolate's and even make a decorative cards. I don't really know why thus this day have to be very special for them. Well maybe, they have the courage to face their crushes, flings and special love. But in my own thought it's just a waste of time, effort and most specially money. Yet in this one moment in my life. I realized that valentine's day is way unique and full of expressions. At my college years. Its turning february again. All of the bookstore, malls, parks and streets is filled with decorative hearts. I just straightly walked and didn't believed on the thought of valentine. I even vandalized my chair and wrote ''v-day is another normal day'' Here comes february 14. Another ordinary day for me. But a special day for them. Before my class. There was a box of chocolate left on my chair and a card saying. ''Would you be my date this valentines day?'' I was liked annoyed by this anonymous letter hanging around the box of chocolate. Then at the end of the letter there was a time and place where we would meet up so I will know who gave it to me. I was curious about this person. So I came late. The meeting place was at our school entrance gate at 5pm. I came about 5:30pm. There was this guy who brought flowers with 3 colors in it. Red, white and pink. He gave it to me and said thank you for me to come. He grab my hand and we walked toward this cafe. He reserved a whole cake that I usually bought everyday. He even know my favorite drink in that cafe. We talked, laughed and get to know each other. After a fun date, I decide to be friend with him. We exchange numbers and as days pass. We know in ourselves that we are special in our own set of ways. Do you wanna know who this guy is? this guy was my batch mate and we usually sat on the same chair where I vandalized it. After my class and after sitting on that chair. Their time was on the afternoon and he saw what I wrote on that same chair. He asked his friend who were a classmate of mine and saw me distantly. Fate it is right? He didn't usually also believe on valentine's day. But after seeing what I wrote he thought why wouldn't give it a try and now we both believe that valentine's day exist in every day that we are together. By the way, I'm tin and my boyfriend is leo. We decide that on the next february 14. We will not celebrate the gift of love just like others. But we celebrate it everyday. Thank you.

Song to Pamper: ''My Valentine'' by Shiny ft. Albert Posis

My heart can hear you

This is maybe the most overwhelmed, dramatic but happy love story. Even I shed a tear for this story. Read it. Its very inspiring.

Here is a story of one of my reader's who accept love even trials and judgement goes through them.

"Do you ever see a person who has nothing to see, nothing to hear or nothing to say? Eventually that person might be blind, deaf or mute. But, do you ever wonder to fall in love to a person who has that kind of illness? Me? Yes, I do. I have fallen in love to a person who is deaf and mute. And even she have that special kind of illness. I truly do love her. My name is adan and my wife is trina. We have a son right now and his name is charlz. I am currently an area manager at a company of clothes. Me and my wife has a speech center which teach sign language. For once and for all, here it is. My own love story that gave me full of heart burns but still ended up happy. One day, I saw trina at some fastfood restaurant. I saw a beautiful lady with her nice dress and eating some ice cream chocolate sundae. I sat by her side and introduce myself. She has nothing to say but just stare at my mouth. She pulled out a pen and a small notebook at her bag and she began to write something that say's "I can't hear what you are saying and I can't talk. But, I can read your lips. By the way, my name is trina" So now I understand why she is staring at my lips. So there it was. We exchanged numbers. I texted her always. We start dating even she is quiet all the time. I don't know why I am so attracted to her. Until, one time. I realize that for a better communication. I would also want to know how to speak using my hand. So I enrolled up to a sign language course and trina always goes with me. I introduced her to my family and friends. It was fine and it's hard for them to accept trina as my girlfriend. There was one time, in my apartment that my mom sent me an email about trina that I should left her and find someone else that is normal. I disagree to my mom of what she said. I said trina is normal and I love her and I will never leave her alone. And for the hard part, trina saw that mail on my laptop and told me that my mom was right. I explained and told trina that I don't care about her illness and I accept her whatever she has. Trina left and gave me a cd and a note that say's "Play me". I played that cd and heard a musical piano song. Days have passed away. I look for trina, I texted her but she always doesn't reply. Until one rainy day in that fastfood restaurant where we first meet. I saw her there sitting with a chocolate sundae at her table and wearing that nice, cozy dress. I sit by her side and give a note that say's "I played your cd" and suddenly she looked at my eyes, get my left hand and put it on her heart. She sign language with her other hand that say's "My heart can hear you". A tear fall from my eyes and I hug her so tight that I don't want to let her go. After that, I give her a ring and proposed to her. I always bring that ring everytime I looked for trina. We faced each other families and for the better. My mom accepted her. We we're married and put up a house and began to plan for our speech center. I always wanted to have some kids on our house. But trina is afraid that it will be like her, prior to her illness. So, trina and I took some medical advice that there is a chance that our baby will be normal. And so on, trina was pregnant and I am very happy that I will be soon a dad. Furthermore, trina give birth to a our son named charlz. Charlz was normal. He can hear and talk. We we're happy and our speech center is going strong. So, this is my dramatic but full of joy love story. I hope I will read it soon on your blog. Thank you very much." - Adan

Tricia:

"If you truly love a person, you will accept who he/she was or what he/she has."

Thanks to you adan. It was very overwhelming for you to share that kind of experience in your life. Take care of your family and Godbless.

Song to Pamper: "Music of my heart" by N'sync & Gloria Estefan

Long distance is not as simple as it looks.

Long distance relationship is not a joke. It takes time, patience, trust, challenge and many lot more. Many incidents can lead to sacrifice and pain. So if you have a relationship with someone who is far away from you. You may relate to this story.

Here is a story of one of my reader's who sacrifice a relationship for the sake of being away.

"Good day tricia. My name is eddie but ed for short. I'm here in states right now. Can you help me about my enthusiasm right now? Since college I've met celine and we were good friends so on and so forth we've been partner until we graduated. We passed on our board exam. We are office mate in the 1st company that we took on. And eventually as years go by. We had plans in our lives. We will be married and have a good family. But, all of that plans, experiences, and many more have been trashed away in the past. A year back then. I was promote from my job and destined to be assigned here in states. Celine and I at first didn't know what to do. I wanted this promotion for my future and family also. And yet, I set aside my love for celine. Before going here I broke up with celine. I don't know why did I do that. I hurt celine for that one situation. I sacrifice our relationship because I don't want to have a "long distance relationship". I know I was stupid but I didn't know what to do. I was blind in the reality for the promotion. All my hopes, dreams, and plans for me and celine were all gone. I'm sorry for celine for hurting her. Am I stupid tricia for what I've done? Should I go home and say sorry for celine? Will she want me back? Please help me. All concern." -Ed

Tricia:

Hi ed. For me as a girl. I was frustrated for your decision of leaving celine. Because first of all, you know celine for how many years. Since college right? and you both work for the same office. How can you made up your mind so fast and didn't think very deeply. Celine was your life back then but you still choose that job or promotion for the sake of money I guess. I'm sorry for blaming you. Hopefully, You give chance for your relationship with celine. Even if your far away with her you still sacrifice. That's why there is a name for "long distance relationship" Or if you really love celine. All you have to do was go to states, work for money and put up your own family with celine. I don't really know if celine will want you back. Try to communicate with her again and tell her that you're sorry and how you really love her. Tell her how stupid you are for not thinking and making a quick but unreliable decision. Sorry for the harsh words ed. And thank you for sharing your story. Always keep reading.

Song to pamper: "Long Distance" by Brandy

Suffocation of One Perspectively Love

Is it true that suffocation can lead to a break up? And whose fault does it required? The one who is tied on the neck or the other side that doesn't know his/her limitation?

Here is a story of one of my reader's who suggest a break up because of suffocation.

"Hi tricia! It's been a long time that you didn't update your site. But, I hope you will still put my story in your blog. Furthermore, My name is Gwyneth and I would like to seek some good advice that I can cope because of my ever bitter break up with my past boyfriend "David". David and I have been fighting for almost a month because of his attitude that always kept my head hurt. He was controlling me for these and that. Every move that I make, he always noticed it and it irritates me. I've known david for a year and a half. But, these past months, he's like my parents. Strict and always hot headed. I've noticed that everytime we're going on a date or something. He always wants that no part of my shoulder would be seen. I know its weird but what will I do? Instead of having fun outside, we end up arguing. And sometimes, me and my friends were a having a lunch at a near fast food restaurant. He suddenly showed up and pulled me at the door with a unexplainable reason. I dont know what to do at that very moment. What will I explain to my friends of having a very paranoid lover. And for that incidence, I woke up from my nightmare. I talked to him one night and I told him that I am scared to lose him but the way he act is just too much and I can't take it anymore. He cried and told me that he is just so much inlove with me and he is too afraid that I will find someone else that I would leave him. But, I had enough. I don't wanna be with him anymore. Once is enough, twice is a war. At this times, he always call me up and tell me that he still love me, he ask for a second chance and he will change. What will I do? Should I give him a second chance or not? I don't like to be controlled by someone anymore. Thanks for this opportunity. And I hope I will see this soon." -Gwyneth

Tricia:

A boy was asking his mother how to find the right girl, his mother said

"Don't think about that too much, concentrate about being the right guy first."

Hello Gwyneth! That story of yours is a challenge for every girl. It's a type of dare whether you choose your heart or your mind. Your heart, because of the feelings you have for david and your mind, for your own rights as a person. The short story up their is dedicated to david, you should read that to him. So he will realize his own mistake of having a strict attitude. For me as a girl, i will not give david a second chance. And like what you have said "Once is enough, twice is a war." But, its your choice. Just think very deeply. Should you follow your heart or your mind?

You too can share your own love story. Just send it to my e-mail address at cia16mae@yahoo.com


Song to Pamper: "Suffocate" by J.Holiday

Continously Working or Fatefully Breaking?

Can a relationship would last forever? Does really no one will give up?

Here is a story of one of my reader's who thought that their love journey would end forever.

"Good evening! I am a one of your reader's. And I thought that I will try to mend my own story to you. I don't bother if you want to post it on your blog or not. By the way, here's my story. I have this girlfriend of mine, her name is lorie. Lorie and I are good friends till' I fall for her, court her and we've became lovers for 3 executive years. I really love her and I knew that she love me too. We always hang out, we always eat at her favorite restaurants, we watch movie at her or mine's house, every time we argue and she end's up crying. I would go to the nearest convenient store to buy her an ice cream (it's her own way of keeping the pressure relief), We always stay late at night talking on the phone, she always make me smile at the point when I'm mad, and I really really love her. I sacrifice everything just for her. It's like I'm perfectly happy just to be with her. But, their this saying that "everything is destined to end" so, their it is. it all begins that we don't talk too much, she always have an excuse when I call her or we're together. There these time that we meet only once a week. Is she trying to avoid me? And I don't have a definite reason why lorie would did this to me. And everytime we meet up, I would simply ask her why she is trying to avoid me, she doesn't say a word and we ended up arguing. On the day of my birthday, we went out. But lorie is different on that day. Just like the old lorie that I knew. She's happy, sweet, and cheerful again. I thought that this was my best birthday ever, but that day was the worst. At the car while I'm driving, she hug me tight and she said the last sweetest words that I would never hear from her again "I LOVE YOU". Finally, we are at their house. I park nearby. She get out of the car and so did I. She hug me tight again and a soft but painful words came out of her mouth. "I love you but were not destined to be together, its time for you to let me go" lorie said. Sad isn't it? and of course I asked why? she didn't answer me. She just rushly go to their house. And I was shocked. I suddenly sat on the road and think. A few words broke my heart. I just went home, and at the time when I'm in my room. I call her and she answered it. I ask why? she said "I don't know, I'm just letting you go. It's maybe I'm not happy with you anymore. I don't want to be with you anymore. I'm sorry that I hurt you but I quit on being your girlfriend" I don't know what to say. A sudden tear came out of my eyes. As we meet up in class I repeatedly ask her again and again. She simply said "it's over and done, I don't want to talk with you anymore" As days passed by, I give up. I don't want to questioned her anymore. But, after all these years? she just want to broke up with me with a undefinite reason. It hurts so much. Until now I couldn't move on. What will I do? I really love lorie. And I still want our relationship to have a second chance. Help me please. -Eddie"

Tricia:

"When you learn to give up your happiness for someone,
that's the moment you learn what real love is"

As I read your story, I recently had a flashback of my past lover. Anyway, its very hard to understand why couple's nowadays is breaking up with unspecific reason. But for your situation, you did nothing wrong. Its lorie's choice to end your commitment with her and you don't have the right to make her change her mind. Yet, if she came back to you. It's your decision if you would still accept her or not. In these time, all you have to do is move on and don't push yourself to her anymore. It's very tiring and annoying. Find someone who is better than lorie. Don't be a emotional person anymore. Smile and face the problems that you have encountered. By the way eddie, Maybe my advice would help you and make you think that lorie is not the only girl in your own world. Thank you for sharing your own love story.

You too can share your own love story. Just send it to my e-mail address at cia16mae@yahoo.com

Song to Pamper: "I Quit" by Atozzio

OPTION is not a predictable reason

Being an Option is not a definite or infinite reason to be a stubborn person.

But, why does it hurts?

Here is a story of one of my reader's.

Hello tricia, I am one of your readers and eventually I have this (I don't know if I should call it a "LOVE PROBLEM") problem. But, it totally hurt deep within me. Anyway, I am mark. Here is my story goes. There's this schoolmate of mine now at college, her name was jenny. She's kind, worthy, and jolly. Me and jenny we're friends until I fall in love with her. I started courting her, like any guy would do for the new girl in their life. And so month's passed by until I realize that jenny is still in touch with her past boyfriend "john". It's so sad and depressing. Because jenny once told me that "she is" also has a feelings with me. But why does she is in touch with that person? After all that things that john done to her. Jenny once confess to me that this "john" is just using her to make john's girlfriend jealous. So he broke up with john. Until now, I can't decide if whether I should give up or not. Because I love her so much with all my heart. But, every time that this "john" text her and need her. Jenny is always their and willing to leave me behind for that person who just used her. Help me. What will I do, Should I stop courting jenny or not? Am I just an option for john? and Why does it is not so easy to forget the past? -Mark

Tricia:

Hi mark! nice love story. even if it totally hurts deep within. right? but I think all you have to do first is to stop yourself courting jenny. Because even if you love and care for her, and enjoying your times together. You are just making a fool of yourself. A feeling of joy and laughter outside but deep within your heart you are just hurting yourself. Stop! and moved on. Find someone else who would not used you as an "option" and find someone who is HONEST with everything that she is doing time after time. Thank you mark for sharing your story. keep reading.

Song to Pamper: "With Him" by Babyface

7 months of LOVE & PLAY

"This girl is so beautiful. Easy to adore with her long black straight shiny healthy hair, cute brownish eyes, chiseled nose, sparkling and glossy kissable lips, sweet one of a kind smile, with a natural skin tone, and a skin that is deeply soft. Maybe one look at her can melt your heart quickly. So beautiful like an angel here in earth. But there's one thing I can't forget about this young, beautiful girl. She is a player. She played with my heart for 7 months. It hurts so deeply that my heart break into a million pieces. I have loved her with all my heart. I adore & praise her for 7 months. For that 7 months, she used me to make her lover jealous. I was blind, totally blind to see for myself of what she is doing behind my back. She use and play me. But thanks for that instance moment with her. Because I am wiser now for choosing the right girl to love. Just an implicit advice for those who has an affair right now. "trust is the most important thing" when you are on a relationship. Don't be fool by a physical appearance only, it's more important when you truly and deeply know that person." -Anonymous

A story of one of my readers. He/She sent it to me and gradually told me that I can post it in my blog. A story of love, play, unfaith, and respect. Although it is hard to move on in this kind of incident affair, don't take a revenge on that person. All you have to do is find someone who is way better than that person.

You too can share your own love story. Just send it to my e-mail address at cia16mae@yahoo.com

Song to Pamper: "I Should Have Cheated" by Keyshia Cole

Sometimes, choosing someone isn't enough

Hi! I'm Rob. I like to share my story with you. I'm in-love with this girl since our childhood years, we used to plan that we should be together in the rest of our lives. As we grow old and have our own ways of living. I courted her with all my heart and even dedicate my life for her. But, she always refuse to accept my heart. She usually say's "I'm not ready", ready for what? to accept my heart, to fall in-love, to accept the consequences. I finally gave up. My friends told me that I should find someone who can trust and love me. As day pass by, someone told her that I have a new lover. She quickly met up with me and ask me why did I leave her. She even told me that she love me ever since, but she's just afraid to tell the truth. I said to her "When I'm always here for you, to take care and love you. You just reject me like a trash. But, this time that I had a girlfriend, you came back and even told me that you love me. This is not just a game that you will play for a minute then let go after you finished it. I'm with a lovely girl right now. A girl who can exchange my love that I have given to her. I cannot accept you. I'm sorry" She suddenly looked at me straight in my eyes, then a teardrop appears and she quickly run away from me. I was stunned, hurt, and guilty. Who should I choose? the past who always hurt me but still brings joy and happiness in my life or the future that can accept and love me yet I'm still not happy.

Song to pamper: "Run to the arms of the one who loves you" by Xscape